The holiday season is a time of great celebration, but if you have recently lost someone who was very close to you, the holidays can be painful and hard to endure. You are grieving, yet everyone expects you to join in the good times.
Similarly, if you lost a loved one at a holiday time in a previous year, the season can be a difficult challenge for you ever thereafter.
If this describes you, remember first that it is perfectly okay for you to have conflicting feelings and ups and downs. Trying to suppress or mask your grief doesn’t help, as it will surface eventually. Fully experiencing your feelings is the best way to work through them.
A safe and effective way to work through your grief and find a way to enjoy the celebrations again is by using your journal.
However, important events in your life, at the time they are fresh, provide a link to your children and grandchildren. Memories fade, but a dated notation of your thoughts just before your wedding, at the birth of a child, a new house, or a cross-country move can enhance your family relationships in later years.
About three years ago, my mother at age ninety-one, decided to recall special events in her life. She asked me to compose a journal. Memories of her early life were fairly vivid. However, when she was a busy wife and mother, she could not recall many events. I solicited information from my siblings, but their memories had faded as well. Sadly a gap appears in her journal.
When it comes to generating ideas and characters to write about for your novel, essay, or children’s story, two of your best resources to glean ideas from are your two best writing friends: Your Personal Journal and your Freewriting Notebook.
Song lyrics can be a great source of title and page inspiration for a journaler or scrapper.
Music and songs play an important part in our lives. Hearing a song again can evoke a lot of emotion, bringing back fond memories of special times, special people and special places.
Of course, different songs mean different things to different people – but you can use songs to ‘tap’ into those memories to create unique, and highly personal scrapbook pages.
A journal headshot (a short entry) provides a quick picture of yourself at any time of the day. You can use it as a quick check of where you are during a break. You can also use it as a beginning journal entry, if you are just starting to journal. You can also write a series of journal headshots for a week or so. Then reread them and see if you discover any patterns in your thoughts, feelings, actions or perceptions. Keep this exercise handy for use at any time.
First of all, I often become too intense when I journal. Sometimes it’s easier for me to be serious then to write fun entries. There’s always a season to journal about serious topics. I am going to introduce one simple way to have fun when you journal.